It looks like it is going to be a busy month of July as I am planning to get two blog posts out so I can catch up with the missing one from May. The good news is that I have them both somehow started, the bad news is that I do not have much time left, just over ten days. No pressure on me! Nevertheless, I am more than confident that my commitment will push things nicely and smoothly towards my goal. It is a matter of being proactive, just simply talking or complaining will get you nowhere. Another dull and miserable evening, summer is nothing but absent; over half of July is well gone but still no sign of those warm sunny blue-skied summer days. One would even dare to say it feels like Autumn by just looking out the window, no wonder why I have a blanket over my legs. My usual cupán tae, my candle flickering away and raindrops rolling down the window. Ready to let words make sense so my blog can be published soon!
Being proactive has been a constant in my life, at least as far as I can remember. It is said that you cannot hurry things to happen, that you should let things be on its own way, that you might need to be patient and wait. I could agree to all of that but up to a certain point, although it would differ from my approach in life. Being eager and determined has worked out really well for me, it has taken me to where I am now. One could say that I am not that sort of person who sits and waits for things to change, who moans and protests about nothing changing, who cries and laments because things do not come easy. In fact, I am the complete opposite: I work really hard towards my goals, my projects, my dreams. The thing is that I would not be me if I were not working arduously. I am a true believer that being driven towards what you want, will you help to materialize your targets in life. Not easy that is for sure, but what else would I be doing?
“In reality, struggles are part of the deal, difficulties come along with you as a companion, hardships present themselves out of the blue”
I keep saying that dreams do come true, it has become one of my mottos. It may look easy and free of struggles, it might seem like a bed of roses and free of difficulties, it could appear to be living the lap of luxury and free of hardships. In reality, struggles are part of the deal, difficulties come along with you as a companion, hardships present themselves out of the blue. For some people (or maybe most people.. lol), the immediate reaction would be to grab a cupán tae, sit down and watch the storm from a distance. For some people (or maybe most people.. lol), the straightforward reaction would be to question the need of getting out of the comfort zone, as it would seem better to stay where you are. For some people (or maybe most people.. lol), the effortless reaction would be to simply just give up, no need for troubling yourself trying to make your dream come true. Obstacles are the perfect excuse for us to quit, setbacks are the right gift for us to throw in the towel, deadlocks are the needed push for us to walk out. Who wants struggles to live with? Who wants difficulties as a companion? Who wants to welcome hardships in? Surrendering can be the easiest way out. Not for me though!
I cannot quit. I cannot throw in the towel. I cannot walk out. When it comes to my dreams, my projects, my goals, giving up is not an option. Am I too stubborn? Maybe! Although I prefer to see myself as someone who is proactive, hardworking and determined. I do not easily give in.
If something is not right for me, I am happy to proactively work towards changing it. As I said, I cannot simply sit down feeling sorry for myself, I cannot accept that it could be easier learning to live with it, I cannot ignore the fact that it is not what I want and then do nothing. I need to be proactive. Eager and determined to shift the chain of facts in order to be where I aim to be, in order to be who I want to be, in order to strongly hold the reins of my life. I am not scared of doing what it may take. I am not afraid of working hard towards the change. I am not terrified of the hardships I will have to endure. Do not get me wrong, at times it can take a will of steel to be proactive, it takes a lot of determination not to give up at the first chance, it takes a lot of willingness to be true to yourself and do what is right for you. However, it is worth it!
“at times it can take a will of steel to be proactive, it takes a lot of determination not to give up at the first chance”
Being proactive has taken me a long way: starting from scratch my own business, after an initial couple of failures with other wrong enterprise partners, and turning it into a very successful venture; separating from my ex husband, who sadly passed away back in 2022, after a few years of a very unhappy and unhealthy marriage, which had left me with a broken heart and soul; moving to Ireland after months and months of hard work, planning and making sure there were not too many loose ends so I could make one of my dreams come true; spending a few good years living in survival mode so I could rediscover myself to be able to shine again; coping with not the best jobs after moving to Ireland so I could stay in the Emerald Isle; enduring fifty dates before I accidentally met my partner in Bloom; and much more.
There are many ways of learning, however, I guess we all learn from failure. If you think that everything is going to be incredibly easy as adding up two plus two, you are wrong. If you believe that there is no need for changes when you are stuck somewhere, you have an incorrect approach. If you assume that the comfort zone is the best place to live life, you will miss out on unforgettable experiences. My humble piece of advice is:if you feel like something is not right for you, be proactive, work hard and make it change! You will definitely not regret it.
Jay Cee Moon ©
Jaycee Moon 